Kissing someone hot for the first time is exciting and stimulating. But do you know how to be a great kisser? Let me show you how!
Create a romantic ambience
Gary Vaynerchuk once said, “Content is king; context is God.” When this theory is used in the dating department, it should be phrased in this way: what you do is king; when, where and how you do it is God. Please let me explain.
When it comes to kissing someone for the first time, what you do (kiss) is the ultimate goal. Meanwhile, the ambience and your kissing techniques determine whether this goal can be achieved or not. Therefore, you should either choose a romantic setting or create a romantic setting.
Remember: candles with the right fragrance can turn on your date instantly (think the scent of Ylang-Ylang and sandalwood). Also, wine is a natural dating tool because after drinking some alcohol, people are less guarded.
Of course, you can even prepare some chocolates with wine in it, e.g. rum truffle, because chocolate is an aphrodisiac which creates positive chemicals in the human brain – it makes you fall in love.
Maintain and break eye contact
The right eye contact isn’t about staring at your date for an hour. In fact, it’s more complicated than you think, but it can be learned.
First of all, you need to assess when you should begin to ignite the passionate eye contact with your date.
Maybe you can get started when you give your date a rum truffle. Or you can begin to look at his/her eyes when you finish a glass of wine.
The point is you need to know when your date is ready. In other words, your date will give you signals. Is his/her voice becoming more gentle?
Does he/she look for excuses to “accidentally” touch you? If the answer is yes, now you can initiate the sexy eye contact.
Now I’d like you to break the eye contact by looking at your date’s nose for a second, and then looking at your date’s lips for a second, and then looking at your date’s eyebrows for a second.
That is to say, your eyes are slowly travelling on your date’s face. This must be done gradually and naturally.
At the same time, you should have a slightly drunken look on your face. (That’s why I said using some alcohol helps in the first place!)
I’m pretty sure your date knows what’s happening because he/she has seen enough Hollywood movies and late-night TV shows to understand what it means.
Get closer to your date and touch him/her
Yes, I know your goal is to kiss your date, but you’d better do it slowly so that the anticipation makes the kiss even more intoxicating.
Hence, it’s time to get closer to your date physically and feel the sexual tension without kissing your date.
Then, you can touch your date’s arm or back. Make it natural and sexy. Switch off your analytical brain and switch on your primal brain.
Feel the sexual tension in your body and let it stay there. Your hand should move slowly on your date’s arm or back. Notice his/her reaction.
If your date obviously enjoys it, you can keep doing it. Honestly, as long as your date doesn’t reject you in this case, you know it’s on.
Begin to kiss your date
Okay. You can kiss the date. When you do this, make sure you slightly close your eyes so that you look a bit intoxicated.
Note that how you feel will influence how your date feels because right now you two are in the same energetic field. Your lips lightly touch your date’s lips. Make the process slow and mindful.
- You can play some music in the background, e.g. a playlist of café music without lyrics. Or a list of songs with foreign lyrics that you can’t understand. This is because if you are listening to songs with lyrics that you can understand, the music becomes a distraction.
- You can make some sexy noises while kissing your date no matter you are a man or a woman. This shows your date that you are into it, you like your date, you enjoy this sensuous interaction with your date.
- You can pre-frame the make-out session by watching a romantic movie or TV show before the date. A case in point is watching Mad Men before the make-out session because Don Draper’s affairs will make both of you start to think about having a good time in the bedroom. This is especially helpful if you and/or your date just had a hectic day at work – you need a mindset shift before enjoying the date.